We’ve come a long way ladies. The Suffragettes laid down the gauntlet, our mother’s generation burned their bras, our generation….well, our generation had Destiny’s Child singing about Bills, Bills, Bills (where we should expect a man to pay for everything) and then Independent Women (where a new memo went out saying we should pay for our own stuff) – confusing times. But the overall message has been that we are the shiznit. We’re all snap our fingers, you go girl, I don’t need a man, he’s not good enough for me, you deserve better – we’re a chattering, nattering sea of awfulness. That’s right, I’m just gonna go right ahead and say it – we’ve started to believe our own hype and are now completely up our own asses.
Being that we’ve been raised on a steady diet of ready-made celebrity crap, we’ve somehow convinced ourselves that nothing and no one is good enough for us. Well ladies, it’s time to have a little reality check. Not all of us are that spectacular. I’m willing to bet, you’re not half as interesting as you think you are. But you’ve watched enough MTV and TMZ to convince yourself you are. I’m not saying you should settle, relationship wise, but maybe you should think twice before looking a gift horse in the mouth.
Example: a while ago, someone I used to have on my Facebook, who is a single mother of three children (to two different fathers) and former stripper, posted a status update along the lines of: ‘My date for tonight just cancelled. Couldn’t handle the fact that I have kids. His loss!!!’
OK, that’s his loss? Seriously? I’m pretty sure that guy’s not crying himself to sleep at night about not looking after your three kids. Let’s be realistic. Now before all the single mothers get their knickers in a twist, no, I’m not saying you don’t deserve love, but at least be realistic about your situation. You will be hard pressed to find a man who wants to sign up for that. At least have enough sense to say to yourself ‘yes I want a relationship and I’m aware that my situation may be a lot for someone to handle.’ Take responsibility. But don’t snap your fingers, act like you’re the baddest bitch in town and that the man is missing out.
Women see Kanye West dating Amber Rose, who’s biggest claim to fame is shaking her ass in a few videos, and think men of that calibre should just flock to them too. Where women before us fought for equal rights so that we could better ourselves and get into better positions in society and the workplace, women now prefer to leech off the ideal of us being equal, do absolutely nothing about it and expect men to fall over themselves to take them out.
Bitch please! Get something going on in your life! Stop turning away perfectly good men because you think you can do or deserve better. A lot of women can’t and don’t. Get over yourself and get your head out of your ass. You aren’t wonderful merely by ‘being’ – try actually DOING something and you may impress someone at some point in your life.