Not So Flashy
Have you ever had the misfortune of being flashed by some creepy weirdo on the train? In an alleyway? On the street? If you have, you know the helpless, horrible feeling of not knowing what to do, if it’s worth saying anything and just the general befuddlement of why anyone would do such a thing anyway. What kind of kicks does a guy get from flashing his wang at an unsuspecting stranger? It says a lot about the male ego that these idiots flatter themselves into thinking anyone is even remotely interested in seeing their package.
So, enter my hero. You may have seen this video crop up on YouTube this week of a woman expressing her disgust having just been flashed by the creepy, guilty looking dude standing in front of her.
Can we all just take a moment to give this woman a standing frikkin’ ovation? She did what so many women have been afraid to do. She spoke up. Loudly. Without apology or fear. She probably wasn’t thinking how inspiring this moment would be to others, or the wonderful example she has set, but for that, I thank her. As a woman who was victim to a rather scary incident of flashing, also on the New York subway (which is apparently the capital of Pervert-ville), I wish I’d have had this woman’s courage. I was 23, by myself and I was stupidly getting the train home at 2am. A young guy came through my carriage with a bunch of friends, stopped in front of me, pulled his pants down and proudly displayed his penis as his friends surrounded me leaving me with no escape. He probably stood there for 15 seconds, but it felt like an hour. There were other people in the carriage. They watched what was happening. No one said anything.
The person I am today would do exactly what that woman in the YouTube clip did. I’d pull the emergency chord and I’d be loud and draw attention to what that perverted freak just did. No one has the right to do that to me. I don’t care if he touched me or not. It’s a violation and it’s unacceptable.
I feel even more compelled to do that after reading this article which explains that the above YouTube video got a lot of referrals from a site called dickflash.com, a delightfully seedy corner of the internet for ‘exhibitionists’. Yes, they have their own site, just as plenty of other sick men with sexual perversions do, to share their seedy little lives with each other. The comments posted in response to this video on dickflash.com included: ‘She should be thankful he flashed his dick at her,’ ‘I would rape the fuck out of that noisy bitch,’ ‘She’s not upset about the flash, she’s upset she hasn’t been laid in two years.’ Others lament at the silliness of these men choosing to flash in crowded public places, when they should obviously strike when a woman is alone and vulnerable and easier to attack. Silly, silly flashers.
What comes across in the comments is that it’s actually all the women’s fault. We’re uptight, we haven’t been laid, we should be thankful they flashed us, we’re more likely to react loudly on a train because we’ll feel more ‘comfortable’ as others are there, rather than if they corner us alone.
Well yes, you ignorant, perverted prick (pun intended), we sure do feel the need to get loud because we’re more ‘comfortable’ in a crowded place. Maybe it’s because people will listen to us. People will see the relentless stream of bullshit that we are often subjected to by idiots such as yourself who think you’re doing womankind a favour by flashing us your privates. So many women suffer in silence, freeze when it happens to them, not knowing what to do. I hope more women get loud, get in your face and most of all, get video of you and post it all over YouTube, assholes!
Ladies please, if this ever happens to you, take a leaf from our red headed hero up there and shout about it.