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Alls I know is… let one of MY daughters try any of this here tomfoolery and CHIIIILLLLLDDDDDDDD, you’ll hear/feel the repercussions all the way in England. And they know this. I’m crazy & follow through with my threats. I make no apologies for it.

I say all this because it ALWAYS goes back to the parents. Why do they need this attention so bad? Because something is lacking at home. Period. And you can’t tell me any different. (mostly because I’m stubborn and will refuse to listen to you.)

My only solution is to not create the sort of environment where a child will think it’s okay to behave this way in the first place. Unfortunately it’s too late for most.

The End.

Most adults don’t have a clue how to use social media responsibly. I think everyone has seen those train wrecks on Facebook or Twitter. Sadly, that puts our younger generation at a distinct disadvantage.

The technology that youth have is scary and the fact that so many parents enable it is even scarier. I understand that many parents want to have that immediate connection, but why does it need a camera? Computers with web cams should be in family rooms, rather than hidden in bedrooms.

Is it unfair? Maybe.. but last time I checked, you don’t appreciate said fairness until much later on in life.

All I can say is, I’m so glad not have grown up with social media. Especially during those terribly awkward teenage years. It is so scary and sad how social media can be so badly misused and abused, you just need to look at the fall out and effects of malicious bullying via FB. Like everything decentralised, as wonderful as the internet can be, it can be as equally hideous. Parents and guardians need to get involved to censor where appropriate, monitor and manage how their children and teenagers are using these sites. I’m sure we’ve all done crazy things as teenagers even if not as drastic as sending naked pictures-the only thing now is with technology, these mistakes are everlasting and there for the world, or in this case, your school to see.

*sigh* I got about a minute into that YouTube video and had to tap out. I would have stopped watching/listening sooner but I was too mortified to actually move.

Jaded made a good point about parental involvement. I remember when those Vanessa Hudgens camera-phone nude pics hit the interweb a few years ago, she said her mother’s response was to laugh and say “What are you going to do?” Was that her version of motherly advice? I’m not advocating shaming the girl but being that complacent about such a serious and (potentially) mentally damaging situation doesn’t do a child any good.

oh yeah one more thing, No it’s not a healthy part of sexual exploration. reading a Joan Collins novel is healthy exploration, not making songs and performing acts that are better left to porn stars.

I think you just need to watch Adulthood and Kidulthood to get it – Thats how I grew up and its only getting worse. Sex is just another currency now.

Little people are making big people decisions and having to live with it for the rest of their lives. I did it myself – only THANK GOD there was no social networking sites in thoses days – my past is memories but they are not forgotten by the people that were around at the time, but its just rumour now, there is no evidence.

These poor kids will learn the hard way that the internet NEVER forgets, and its memories comes in HD colour :C The mistakes they will make may change the entire course of their lives.

I dont think thats fair.

I love the way you have written this article Bangs, so many people are fast to slag of these young women, without realising there is an environment and culture that is leading girls into thinking that this is how you express your womanhood. We cant change that overnight, but there are other ways of letting these girls know that it is not the done thing.

Maybe a little love and understanding and compassion from the condemners (and so many claim to be followers of God) might show these young women that there is more to being a woman than fucking and flashing your tits to a unseen audience.

If they are craving love and attention that badly, maybe It should be given, with guidance on how to attract these things without putting out.

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The sad reality is that us regular folk don’t have PRs to do damage control and spin off our mistakes to add to our popularity. Putting yourself out there on the internet means dealing with some huge consequences and there are some really nasty comments on her youtube page.

I’m not a total expert on non-commercial hip hop, but it’s not the first time I’ve heard lyrics like that from female rappers (although hers were pretty grim). It seems to me that Niki is probs trying to get the attention of some independent labels to sign her.

It’s not always the parents to blame though, as teenagers can find ways to outrun parents and do their own thing. Saying that, parents should familiarise themselves with social media and try to prevent as many online dangers as they can, without overdoing it and pushing their kids into further secrecy.

Rather the young lady really did everything she was singing about, who knows… If she is looking for stardom, she is going about it the wrong way. As all of us adults already know, making this video & putting it out to the world; is not going to help her in any way….

But making mistakes in life, is how we learn, I just kinda feel sorry for her because I believe this video will haunt her for a very long time.
Jim

I’m a bit late to the comment party, having just discovered your excellent blog.
I wonder if, when you put aside her age, there may be some double standards here. It seems to me that it’s ok for men to rap about sex in some of the most explicit terms but when a girl does it, she’s shocking or a slut.
What’s going on there?