Sunday, August 16th, 2015
Alright, now that I have your attention, let’s get serious for a second. A long time blog reader of mine contacted me last week to tell me that a little over a month ago, at the age of 26, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Just over a week ago, she underwent a single mastectomy and reconstruction. (I feel it’s worth mentioning that she appears to be handling all this with way more grace, clear-headedness and humour than I think I’d be able to muster at her age. Fist bump to you, Alice, for realz). Anyhoo, she was getting in touch because the only reason her cancer hadn’t spread and was able to be dealt with so quickly, was down to early detection. As a result, Alice is on a mission to get women to self-examine our breasts, or, in the age of catchy hashtags, #CheckYourChebs.
I’m ashamed to admit that prior to getting Alice’s email last week, I had probably only checked my boobs maybe three times in my life. This was 100% down to fear of actually finding something – which is completely nonsensical when you think about it. If I find something, it can be dealt with. If I just leave it, well, yeah, things wouldn’t go so great. My point is, ignorance ain’t bliss, amigos.
And so right then and there, as I read her email and clicked on the link to her blog post with more info, I had a good ol’ feel around my boobs. If Alice can do it and deal with the consequences like an absolute ROCKSTAR, I can do it too. I’m pleased to say, nothing felt out of the ordinary.
So I’m writing this post today to encourage you all to do the same. Check out Alice’s post. If you’re not sure how to #CheckYourChebs, go have a chat with your doctor about how to do it and what you should be looking for.
Pretty please encourage all the women in your life to do the same. Early detection is key. These are not things we should be embarrassed about. Take ownership of your body and your health. And while we’re on the subject, go get a smear test too!
Let’s face is, boobs are great! Go have a feel of yours now and spread the #CheckYourChebs word.
Thursday, August 13th, 2015
Another week, another episode of The No Bullshit Guide to Life. This week, I’m making a passionate plea for us all to put our frikkin’ phones down for a bit and actually really engage with each other. Let me know your thoughts – do you have any rules for social media/technology use in social situations? How do you make sure you’re really present in the moment with those around you?
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Friday, August 7th, 2015
None of us are all good or all bad, but it can be hard to remember that when someone does something we deem less than great. In light of the recent allegations against Bill Cosby, can we still appreciate his contribution to the arts while condemning his behaviour? And can we hold ourselves to those same standards? I’m deep diving into that in this episode. Let me know what you think.
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Monday, August 3rd, 2015
You know when someone gets famous and people dig five years back into their Twitter timeline to find something unsavory that person tweeted, to somehow prove that once upon a time, that person was an asshole? Yeah, what’s that about? Are we holding everyone to the things they said and did years ago? Because, man, I really don’t wanna be held to some of the ridiculous views I’ve had over the course of my life. And it’s not just celebrities – it goes for anyone in your circle. If someone pops up one day with an opinion that differs from one they had years ago on the exact same subject, can we just let that person have the leeway to grow?
Tuesday, July 28th, 2015
Whew! It’s been a while since I did a podcast, but alas, I’ve got my act together and finally made the time to record one.
In this episode, in the wake of the Ashley Madison website hack, where the not-so-earth-shattering discovery was made that people cheat, I discuss how monogamy isn’t the relationship ideal for everyone and that perhaps we should be a little more open and a little less judgmental about that.
I get that this may be a controversial topic for many, but I’m interested in your thoughts. Click play on the pic above, have a listen and let me know what you think.
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Wednesday, July 8th, 2015
I love being alone. That is not to say I don’t love people, my friends, my family and having a great time being around them, but I also love my own company. Part of it is to do with my introvert tendencies that being alone is actually pretty vital for my soul, but I’d argue it’s something everyone needs to be comfortable with. I’m always a little wary of those who feel the need to constantly be surrounded by people. To me it seems, on some level, you can’t be all the way good with who you are as a person if you’re not willing to spend one-on-one time with yourself on a regular basis. Scared to do it? That’s even more reason why you should.
Wednesday, June 24th, 2015
Let me kick this off with a quote from modern day sing/rap poet laureate, Aubrey ‘Drake’ Graham: ‘Please do not speak to me like I’m that Drake from four years ago, I’m in a higher place.’
I hear you Aubrey, I hear you. And I do indeed relate, as I’m sure many of us do. Well, those of us who are actively trying to grow, change, learn, move forward, and generally do some shit with our lives. Doesn’t it always seem, no matter how well you’re doing, there’s always that one person waiting in the wings to remind you of that one time you weren’t? Yeah, fuck that guy.
Probably one of the hardest lessons as you enter a new phase in your life is that you can’t bring everyone with you. Some people naturally drop off, others you have to forcibly drop kick to get them out of your Zen zone. Either way, it’s important to know that that’s OK.
Wednesday, June 10th, 2015
I had an epiphany a couple of months back. For as long as I could remember, I’ve had goals and dreams and an ideal life in mind. I’ve spent damn near every day trying to get closer to those ideals. And then one day I realised, it wasn’t working. Something was just…off. I wasn’t actually allowing myself to recognise the good. I was so busy chasing the next thing, trying to edge myself further and further up that sliding scale of success that I didn’t even recognise when I was being successful. My solution? I hit pause and decided to just live my life and enjoy it.
Wednesday, June 10th, 2015
I was fourteen when I started my period. I was late to the party, being the last among my girlfriends to get this ultimate gift of womanhood. I remember being impatient, really wanting it to finally arrive so I could be part of those bonding sessions with the other girls about cramps and hot water bottles and how to get out of PE.
Wednesday, May 27th, 2015
I last bought a watch about 10 years ago – a haphazard purchase in Heathrow airport waiting to board a flight and move to Tokyo. It was a D&G watch, it made me feel fancy. Watches are hard to pick. Like handbags, I feel like they say so much about you and your style. So, I’d wanted a new watch for a while, but no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find one I liked.