Posts Tagged ‘life lessons’

Living With Regrets

Tuesday, May 14th, 2013

Regret

I never believe people when they say they have no regrets. I mean, really, you’ve managed to make it through life making winning decisions every step of the way? I’m sure you’ll say you learned something from everything you went through and yeah, yeah, I hear you, absolutely, there is value in that. But surely, you can still wish that teachable moment happened without you having to make an ass out of yourself to get it. I for one can say I definitely regret a few things, one thing in particular in fact.

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On Guilt, Shame & Getting Over It

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

I’ve shared a lot of my life on this blog. Some things haven’t been easy to share, much like this post today, which will most likely be my hardest. I’ve kept this experience buried for about three years under thick layers of guilt and shame. I’ve analysed and overanalysed why it is I feel the way I do about it and well, suffice to say, I’m sure a lot of women will relate. And so, in the interests of this blog being a place that hopefully provokes thought, discussion and helps people, I felt it was time to share.
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Job Well Done

Wednesday, June 6th, 2012

You know what we don’t do enough of? Saying well done. Seriously, when’s the last time you just told someone they were awesome for no reason? Or told them they did a good job? Oh sure, feeling good comes from within and all that, self esteem can only come from self, naturally, but heck, show me a person whose face doesn’t light up when someone praises them a little and I’ll show you a person with no soul. In my experience, the root of a lot of people’s ambition lies with the desire to make someone proud or get just an iota of recognition for doing something decent. So you know what? We should all be offering that iota. We should be offering it up freely and willingly – let’s have ourselves a praise fest!

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Stopping Friends Becoming Foes

Thursday, May 10th, 2012

Friendships are a funny old game. I don’t think I’ve ever really been very good at them to be honest. A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine decided to ‘break up’ with me, if you will, citing my truly sucky friendship skills. She was right, to be fair – I have not been the greatest amigo. It’s a sad loss, but one that has been rather sobering for me. While there’s nothing I can really do about the loss of that friendship, there’s still time for me to learn some lessons and buck up my ideas, so what have I learned?

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Adult Peer Pressure – it’s Real!

Thursday, April 12th, 2012

It’d be nice to think that school time playground antics can be left there, but it seems sometimes as we grow older, certain things remain. We so often associate peer pressure with being a teenager and falling in line, doing things we don’t want to do, just to impress our friends. This, of course, is written off as the ignorance of youth, us not yet having developed the skills to stand firm in our decisions. But now that we’re adults, we should be able to do that, right?

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Five Ways to Get Your Self Back

Wednesday, April 11th, 2012

Sometimes, we get swept away with life. Circumstances get out of our control and before we know it, we’re feeling out of our depth. New situations and experiences are great, but sometimes people find they lose their sense of self in amongst all the newness. Everyone must grow and evolve, but we all have an essence that makes us who we are. To lose that would be worrying. So if you’re feeling like you’ve lost yourself, here’s a few tips to get you on the road back to you.

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Dream on Dreamer

Thursday, March 22nd, 2012

Having lived both here in the UK and overseas in Canada and the United States of UhMerrCa, I think it’s fair to say that over here, we’re pretty much a nation of pessimists. That’s a huge sweeping statement, I know, but for the most part, it’s a fair one. We haven’t been sold the American dream. We’ve been sold the ‘get your head down and get on with it’ reality. Oh sure, we’re allowed to dream, just not too big. I feel encouraging people to have goals and strive to achieve is important, but what if someone’s dream has no chance of becoming a reality? Is it ever appropriate to tell someone to give up on it?

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Work in Progress

Friday, March 9th, 2012

I came across the picture on the left recently, of me after I finished my first half marathon in October 2010. That look on my face is my ‘I can’t quite believe I just did that’ face. The pic on the right is from a shoot I did for Nike a couple of weeks ago. I put the two shots side by side and it was quite literally right there in front of me how far I’ve come. Running has been the propeller component that kick started this particular journey in my life, but it’s become about so much more than the running.

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How to Break Up Gracefully

Monday, February 27th, 2012

 

People, let’s talk about affairs of the heart. I mean let’s really get down to the nitty gritty of it all. Specifically, when they don’t go so well. The internet has a way of letting things live on, exposing stuff you’d much rather have kept private. Last week online, a site posted a stream of text messages a girl sent to a guy she’d dated a couple of times, wondering why he didn’t want to see her anymore. It was painful, cringeworthy reading. Clearly, the girl did herself no favours and the guy involved is most likely contemplating a restraining order. So, when things don’t quite go according to plan, how can you get out with your dignity intact?

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Pregnancy Pay Day?

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

You know, I like to think we’ve come a little ways as women. What with us having the vote now and everything, we’ve made some significant changes. Hark at all the opportunities we now have! Ones that our grandmothers would’ve loved to have had available to them. So when I saw Marie Claire tweet last week that women are apparently tricking rich men into having their babies, I couldn’t help but wonder, are we taking three steps forward and two steps back?

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